Those who have not been on a dating site are often sceptical about how it can possibly be a way to find romance. The idea of  looking for people to meet on line is designed to offer choice and give access to potential suitors who you wouldn’t meet in every day life.

This is very relevant for over 40s who don’t regularly go to parties or bars where a chance meeting may happen. Also, mature singles tend to be discreet about their love life and don’t necessarily want their friends and colleagues knowing they are on the look out for that special person.  Looking online in the first instance is perfect. To be able to take advantage of emailing, texting and speaking is enormously beneficial and takes away any anxiety before a first encounter.

It is necessary to write a profile that makes you stand out from the crowd. It shouldn’t be boastful but you might as well put your good points forward. As so many people are finding love online you need to be  a bit special to attract attention.

Over 40s have had a lot of interesting experiences and gained  knowledge in many topics. It may be an interest in speaking Spanish for example that catches the eye of someone looking at your profile so mention your talents and hobbies too. You need to know how to sell  yourself in an informal way. Mature singles have the time to indulge in activities they enjoy so if you like to go sailing say so. You might just find someone willing to pull on your ropes.

Life is what you make it, so it is said. It’s all too easy to blame certain actions on a midlife crisis. It’s more likely to be a case of someone putting No 1 in pole position. If we give labels to parts of one’s life it becomes convenient to blame erratic behaviour on a ‘midlife crisis’.  Certain age brackets are given a label but all stages and ages are for enjoying without causing mayhem. Over 40s can have a great time with the right planning. As for the singles over 50s, commitments are further reduced – more time to play .

Mature singles can choose to stay single or find a partner to share experiences. Togetherness with the right person is the perfect way to live. There are  reports that cuddles may be good for the bones as they release oxytocin. In a happy relationship stress levels are reduced and this helps with the whole body including the bones.

We read many reports of people being led up the wrong street by sat navs. Stories of lorries getting stuck under low bridges and cars ending up in streams are common. Some errors result from lack of updated information. Updates need to be made very simple and free and why not make them obligatory to avoid accidents? A sat nav can only be as good as the information entered . Over 40s grew up knowing how to read and navigate via maps and road signs. Orienteering is an important life skill. It’s also good for the brain so there’s an added benefit for mature minds.

If, for example, you are going to meet someone for a first date you will look pretty daft if you don’t make it. That person may have been your perfect match. The important first impression won’t have a good impact if you turn up flustered. On the news today a man found himself in a lifeboat launch position. Had he switched off his brain?   Mature singles who need accurate directions to enjoy a first date could lead the way in reverting to maps.

Mature Singles have certain expectations when looking for love online. The days of playing games and not being honest about one’s situation and intentions have passed for most. This doesn’t mean to say that life is becoming any duller  but  it’s more of a reflexion on maturity that makes people want to be more straight forward – and by our forties we know ourselves better than in our heady 20s. Most over 40s are looking for a lasting relationship with as few complications as possible.

Profile adjectives such as ‘young at heart’, ‘affectionate’,’ independent’ and ‘goals’ are mentioned. It is important to know someone’s interests to see if it fits with what you like doing. You need to know if you are going to date a man who likes ocean sailing as it would be good if that appealed to you too. If not, you need to make sure you have your own interests and a certain amount of independence. There are many a married couple who would wish their partner would go away from time to time. It’s healthy within a relationship. Having been on the planet for longer, hobbies and interests will be well set in stone for some.

The message comes across that mature singles are interested in stability, honesty and caring within a relationship. It is not the time in life when one wants to have time wasted even before the fun begins.