A new programme starts in the States soon called The Voice .http://www.bbc.co.uk/newsbeat/17939780. Someone’s voice can make or break a potential relationship. Deep inside us we fall for certain voices and it may even override how attractive someone is. As you will spend lots of time talking and listening to a new partner you have to be happy with the sound of their voice and indeed laugh. Mature singles will know that this is true and will be sensitive to these basic traits.

Voices which grate or are too loud or have an unappealing accent have a big impact on who you choose to spend time with. They are so much about who you are, where you come from and so much more. Over 40s have the opportunity to chat and  and really get a feel for the person before you meet. If you are in doubt about the person’s voice the chances are that the match is not made in heaven.

It’s a waste of time if you don’t keep up with the people you are contacting online. It will be assumed that you are in touch with several people and not really interested. It’s not a bad idea to line up a few conversations and dates but be consistent in your approach. Being organised in your efforts to find that special someone could really pay off.

In this way you will find out who is truly interested in pursuing a relationship. Over 40s are likely to have a mature and thoughtful way of staying in touch and letting a ‘non-contender’ down gently. Just because it’s online it’s still necessary to treat people well.

Mature singles shouldn’t however, be too meticulous, like the man in the US whose details of possible dates with the one he fancied most at the top went viral. He used a spreadsheet to keep records so  he sounds like a boring geek anyway. It would be good to see how he scores with the ladies – if at all. Tee hee.

I went to lunch with a friend I haven’t seen for some 30 years. It was magic. We had so much to get through, so many laughs about people and things that happened. Our next meet up is planned already as jaw ache was setting in. We had good reasons to talk about the past with so many fond memories.

It got me thinking about first dates for mature singles and how to direct the conversation so your date isn’t left with a head full of names, events and happenings that are confusing. Not everyone is having a deeply rich life of of experiences so take it easy and talk about the present when you meet someone new. If the relationship develops then it’s time to put your past life into play. Over 40s  have hobbies and other interests which should keep the chat flowing without the need to go back into the mind’s archives. It’s a relationship in ‘the now’ you are after so get settled in and expand the picture over time.

Easter Sunday is a day to celebrate for church goers and non church goers. It’s a day to share with family and friends to be together and rejoice. It’s a time to reflect how lucky we are to have people around us. Last year we were basking in a heat wave but not so this year but with good company it’s not a problem.

In an ideal world we would sharing a romantic day with a partner. For those who aren’t in a personal relationship thoughts may turn to being in love before  the next holiday in May. There’s nothing to be lost by looking online rather than fretting about being single. Mature singles are leading the way in finding someone online. After all, people do degrees online, shop, watch t.v. and so much more so it’s crazy not to look for love this way too. Over 40s have passed the ‘showoffy’ stage and tend to write honest descriptions. By the next bank holiday you could be waving your Union Jack along with that special person. Happy Easter!